Sexual Fantasies: How to Ask your Partner to Fulfill Them?

KamasutraYou and your partner have a great relationship, but the sex is a little monotonous? Do you have intriguing fantasies that you would like to bring to life?

There is no need to worry and consider yourself a pervert - any person has sexual fantasies. But you hesitate to ask your partner to implement them. Live cams are the best solution in such a situation. Experienced and trained cam girls will do everything you have never felt and lead you to the heaven you have ever been. However, how can you help get things going and make your sexual relationship richer and more interesting after that?

Erotic Fantasies

First, you need to find out how your partner herself perceives your current relationship. It often happens that both partners want to embody similar fantasies with each other, but neither one dares to declare them, fearing ridicule or, even worse, accusations of perversity. Naturally, both suffer.

But both will be happy if one of you takes the initiative and dares enough to talk about your sexual desires and fantasies. But you are not brave, and you need to find out about your partner's attitude to your intimacy. Then watch and be careful! If after sexual contact your partner, just like you, is not too satisfied, it means that he is also tired of the monotony. This means that he is quite ready to accept favorably the proposal to diversify your sex. It’s just a small matter - determination.

But it is quite possible that your partner is quite happy with the way it is. Do not despair, this does not mean at all that he will give up the opportunity to bring a bit of novelty and spice into your sex.

It will be very difficult if your partner's sex life is strictly regulated by certain principles (for example, he is a staunch Catholic), from which he is not going to retreat.

If your sexual fantasies go against these principles, you are unlikely to be able to convince him to introduce them into your sex.

However, such people are quite rare and try to notify the partner of their beliefs at the very beginning of the relationship - in order to avoid any delicate issues in the future. If you have been in a relationship for some time, and still have not learned these principles, it means that your partner is not at all “principled”.

However, it may be that there are any internal taboos associated with complexes, specific upbringing, beliefs, phobias, panic, and so on. And if you notice the possibility of presence, any taboos, you should visit a sexologist.   

Erotic Games

So, you learned the attitude of your partner to innovations in sex: he does not mind. However, the fantasies themselves are also different. Among them, there are those that will not be difficult to implement, but there are those from which your counterpart can get his eyes on his forehead. An offer to try a new position from the Kamasutra will most likely be met with approval, but a proposal, for example, to invite a third person to your bed, may result in a very unpredictable reaction. Each person has a certain limit, and you should take it into account.

If your sexual fantasy goes far beyond this limit, most likely, you will not be able to realize it with this partner.

But more often it happens that the sexual fantasy of one of the partners only slightly oversteps the limit of the admissibility of the other. For example, your partner will categorically refuse to have threesome sex but is almost ready to think about diversifying your sexual games with some kind of "toy" (although he believes that foreign objects are superfluous in such a case). You have a real chance to "push back" his limit by means of competent persuasion.

Where to begin?

Preparation for a delicate request should be started early. The partner needs to be psychologically prepared, adjusted so that he perceives your proposal as more or less natural (although he himself does not think so). For example, let's take the already mentioned fantasy of using special toys.

Before you openly ask your partner about it, you will need to quietly convince him that there is nothing shameful about it. A good way to achieve this would be, for example, watching a video course on sexual pleasures that you allegedly accidentally obtained, in which "quite by accident" there will be a lot of information (with video illustrations, of course) about the benefits and pleasure of using sex toys.

Perhaps your partner will laugh at this information, or even express his dissatisfaction, but subconsciously, the setting will already begin that by refusing this, he limits himself.

He will not say this in words, but your task is not to convince him right away but to sow the first seeds of doubt.

After the psychic adjustment of your partner, you can already openly express your request. But for this, it is necessary to choose the right time, place, and setting. In no case should you force events by demanding that your desire be realized immediately? To begin with, create an attitude in your partner in which it will be difficult for him to refuse you.

For example, tell him about your fantasy during sexual foreplay. Do not expect that he will immediately answer "yes", because you remember that this "yes" is almost beyond the limit. So first, just tell us about your fantasy. You should move on to the stage of its embodiment later when he accepts your fantasies as a natural part of sex.

Games in the Bed

Now, when the limit of the permissible has shifted somewhat, and what was previously considered unacceptable or unnecessary is already perceived normally, you can begin the actual embodiment. This part must also be taken carefully. Perhaps you want to use several toys in sex, but it is better to start with one, the most harmless in your partner's opinion.

However, for many, the problem of fulfilling sexual fantasies is associated not so much with the obstinacy of the partner, but with the lack of courage to simply express their desires. Do you feel ashamed at the thought of telling at least someone (even your beloved one) about your fantasies? In this case, the best assistant will be a psychologist.

Most often, shame hides a certain complexity that you received in childhood and does not allow you to fully enjoy life.

Moreover, this complex often poisons not only the sexual but also other aspects of life. It is possible to cope with it only with the help of a specialist. And therefore - do not be afraid to go to a psychologist! Sexual fantasies are natural and enjoyable. But when they are embodied, it is doubly more pleasant.